11 Sep 2026 #writing
Nobody wants to read about the successful being successful. That’s a bad story.
James Altucher, one of the writers I’ve stolen from, shares not to be heroes, but vulnerable. Our struggles make our stories more relatable. He has a rule: if it doesn’t make you scared, don’t hit Publish. I probably read it in Choose Yourself Stories.
In 10 Simple Ideas That Changed My Life, I wrote about my burnout episode, my stomach issues, and, even bits of my dating life. For a moment, I regretted sharing that, especially in a book.
These days, a reader told me the book related so much with her, because she’s been going through similar situations. That made it a 5-star for her. And that’s the power of stories.
If it doesn’t make you scared, don’t publish it.
10 Sep 2026 #misc
I was looking to know how the mind and emotions work.
But I found the best lesson for marriages and relationships.
It’s the XYZ approach from Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman:
When sharing about an uncomfortable or annoying situation, instead of attacking the spouse, point out the situation.
And say something like, When you did X, it made me feel Y. I would have preferred Z.
Always make it about the situation, not the person.
And if it works for marriages, it works at the workplace too.
09 Sep 2026 #books
Read broadly or read about certain subjects or reread the same books?
I’ve struggled choosing a reading strategy.
Probably, for years, I read about anything that crossed my path.
But I realized I was only reading to chase quantity.
Then I switched to read books as needed.
These days, I started Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman.
It teaches about empathic listening: not just hearing or repeating the last words you hear, but to listen and paraphrase showing the underlying emotion.
While reading about it, I remember that’s precisely one of the habits from 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.
That made me go back and read that chapter again.
Habit #5, if I remember correctly.
Which led me to remember about Anthony Metivier’s idea of building a fortress of books.
In of his YouTube videos, he recommends reading books that build on, expand, or contradict each other.
You’ll find the same concepts in different perspectives.
That’s a better reading strategy.
In case you’re curious, here are my books. Feel free to pick any strategy to read them.
08 Sep 2026 #wellness #selfgrowth
When I shared about my unmet expectations and my career plans, my sister told me,
“You will have a perfect life. But it won’t be perfect all the time.”
A gentle reminder to find contentment where I am at now.
Yes, she’s younger but way wiser.
07 Sep 2026 #misc
It was a joke, but it made me update the sales page of my books.
Yesterday I found this sarcastic LinkedIn post, listing the laws for a new world order.
One of them was to ban the word “Discover” from any piece of copy. It made me list my 10 words or phrases to ban too—as a creative constraint:
- Level up
- Discover
- Skyrocket
- Delve into
- Here’s the thing…
- Are you ready to…?
- In this day and age…
- Let me tell you something…
- Take $something to the next level…
- In the fast-paced/fast-moving world of…
Which one would you ban too?